Devote yourself to your partner's sense of safety and security and not simply to your idea about what that should be. What may make you feel safe and secure may not be what your partner requires from you. Your job is to know what matters to your partner and how to make him or her feel safe and secure. Stan Tatkin
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The deepest and most fulfilling love is one that is based on mutual respect and understanding. A relationship without the intention of meeting someone's needs and wants will never be as strong as a relationship where both partners work to make each other feel safe and secure. There are times when our partner's needs and wants may not line up with what we would like them to be. We can't change them; we can only learn to listen to what our partner needs and wants. We should never sacrifice our own feelings of safety and security for our partner’s feelings of security and safety.

Source: Wired For Love: How Understanding Your Partners Brain And Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict And Build A Secure Relationship

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